It's my first, it's Wednesday, "Pour Your Heart Out" post, and we'll just have to see if I'm able to follow through each Wednesday. My blog is mostly about our Expat experiences, our travels, our family, and every so often I comment on local (German) events or the events back home, in Ohio. Nothing too deep and nothing too controversial is my thinking. Yet, like everyone, I from time to time have thoughts, feelings, and emotions, that need to be expressed. I just don't think a public blog is the right place for that--(just my opinion). However, I find it fascinating to read others' blogs who do just that--pour out their hearts.
Then, one day I came across the blog of a rally astute young gal and noticed her button and her challenge. Her blog, Things I Can't Say , is amazingly honest and forthright. She is a young mother of three boys and still finds time to blog regularly, amongst her other activities. After reading her entries in "Pour Your Heart Out" and her challenge for her readers to try it, I decided I'd give it a go.
So, for this first entry, I've decided to pour my heart out about mothers and daughters. Now, I'm no expert in parenting and, in fact, I'm not even the mother of a daughter. But I have taught and observed the behavior of teenage girls for 30 years and I am also, afterall, my own mother's daughter. So I'm inclined to think that these facts give me some credence when it comes to commenting on mothers and daughters.
Today, let me say, I am pouring out that I am heartsick for daughters of mother's who want to promote their child at any cost. I'm referring to those mothers who try to relive their lives through their daughters' lives. Believe me when I say that I have witnessed many such mothers throughout my teaching career. The scenario may change, the calendar may change, but the mothers truly are the same.
These are the mothers who allow their daughters-- no.... allow is not the right verb--approve of their daughters' poor choices because they fear that should they disapprove, their daughter will not be liked, will be unpopular, or will not get the guy--(probably the one they never got in school, is my guess). All share the same quality, insecurity.
Oh, they will protest, justify, and even get angry at the thought that anyone could accuse them of such blatant daughter-promotion. They will insist that there is nothing wrong with the way they mother and argue that all of the girls that their daughter associates with are doing the same thing.
But let me tell you, it is denial, plain and simple.
Think I'm wrong? Think I am just a member of the older generation who isn't as hip as I could be? You might be right, but how could any mother condone this? And for what reason have they allowed it to happen to their sweet innocent 7 year old daughter?
I am just heartsick after having viewed this and I hope you are too.
I would hate to believe that this is acceptable in any mother's world.
Oh, and please let me know if you share my sentiment or if this is totally acceptable in your opinion. I would love to hear from you.
Vezi mai multe video din Sport
4 comments:
I've seen far too many mothers doing that vicarious living through their daughters firsthand. It's not right!
The sad thing is that these little girls are such amazing dancers...they would do well in a competition without those costumes and provocative moves. The skills and technical abilities that they show are not the sexy moves...they could show talent without that sexy stuff. It's not even the song necessarily either...but I do think that they could have followed the "less is more" and done better by being a little less over the top and would have still done a great job in their competition.
I'm not going to watch it because I can tell from the photo that I am disgusted.
I so disapprove of the objectification of women and how could this done to children be anything other than horrible?
The people that I am most upset with is the dance teachers who choreographed this number. Parents are paying for their girls to attend dance class and my guess is that most of them had no idea this was the number the girls were working on until it was time for competition. These girls are actually extremely talented for their age and it's a shame that the dance teacher chose to exploit them rather than to showcase their talents.
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